As someone deeply immersed in the emotions of the mind and body through self work and also through facilitating the work of others, I see pain. I see heartache. I see unspoken grief.
I see men and women who want love, connection, compassion and courage and with all my heart I desire that too. For myself, for you, for our communities, for our world.
It’s easy to be Manager of our pain, when we reach for a glass of wine at the end of a rough day.
It’s too easy to be Ignorer of our grief, when we automatically dial into Facebook on our smart phones.
It’s wonderfully blissful to be Passionate Planner of our heartache, when we organize a night of drinking and games and fun activities.
In the face of our suffering, our pain, our grief, it’s easy to be Controller, Creator, Director, Boss, Executive Director.
However, when we numb one feeling, as Brené Brown writes, we numb them all. We cannot numb pain without numbing happiness. We cannot numb heartache without numbing joy. We cannot numb grief without numbing our ability to experience connection, compassion, love.
The challenge is to hold your own heart in the face of your suffering, your imperfection, your joys, your sorrows.
Be a witness to suffering.
Forget your perfect offering,
there is a crack in everything,
that’s how the light gets in.
~ Leonard Cohen, “Anthem”