“Most of our troubles are due to our passionate desire for and attachment to things that we misapprehend as enduring entities.” ~Dalai Lama
Letting go feels like losing control. Did you actually think you were in control of this wild, abundant, crazy life anyway? “When you stop trying to grasp, own, and control the world around you, you give it the freedom to fulfill you without the power to destroy you” (Letting go of attachment).
In trying to hold on to what’s familiar, we limit our ability to experience joy in the present. A moment can’t possibly radiate fully when you’re suffocating it in fear. ~ Letting go of attachment
Letting go feels like giving up. Let’s remember: giving up is deciding it’s futile whereas letting go is appreciating the process and recognizing there may be something good in not getting what you want.
Letting go feels like throwing in the towel. This phrase comes from boxing: when a player is too beat to continue, the coach throws a towel into the ring to signal the end. It doesn’t mean you are defeated, it means that today you faced the challenge and grew through the experience. You don’t know what today’s growth will be used for in the future, but all growth is beneficial!
Letting go feels like failure. When you place your happiness, your bliss in people, places, things and hold on to them for dear life… you set ourselves up for feelings of failure. We stress about the possibility of losing them when something feels wrong. And we melt into grief when something changes–a break up, a crisis, a lay off, a disconnection. Failure is not trying at all. Letting go is releasing expectations–the attachment–of the outcome.
Letting go feels like imperfection. Because we’re supposed to achieve everything we set our eyes on? Because we’re supposed to do everything the first time perfectly? Again, when were you under the illusion that you were in control of this amazing, incredible, intense life experience? Repeat with me: “Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging” (The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are).